Guest toonlass Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 My ex husband decided to not have any contact with my daughters over 4 years ago, and stopped paying his maintenance through the CSA. He even moved house and job to avoid payments. However a friend of mine found out where he had moved to and gave me his address, and so I informed the CSA where he was living. I know he has a decent job and wage and just because he has chosen to sever contact with his kids shouldn't absolve him from the financial repsonsibility of them. The CSA contacted him, did the calculations and set an amount he was meant to pay each month (after he avoided payment for nearly 3 years). He didn't bother paying this and the CSA had to get a reductions from earnings order onto his wage, where his employers take the money out of his wages and send them to the CSA. Now I know that his employer is also his mate, and so they waited until the very last moment they could last month before sending the money to the CSA. I should have received the next payment today (only the second payment in over 3 years) and apparantly the employer has until close of business last night to get the money to the CSA, but so far nothing is showing up on the computers at the CSA, and I am fuming! Its hard enough being a single parent, and its hard enough trying to make ends meat, but then my ex husband and his mate who employs him just take the piss. Its about time something was done to stop fathers from fucking around with their kids lives. What my ex doesn't realise while he is being petty, is that its his children that the money is for, not me. I am absolutely fuming, my rent is due on Tuesday, I have bills to pay, shopping to get in and the maintenance is not in the bank. Am seriously thinking of quitting my job and going on benefits as it means that I won't have to pay rent, council tax and rely on his money. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest scum Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 get on jeremy kyle. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Geordie Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I think dads who sever themselves from their responsibilities (emotional and financial) are not worth a light in all honesty. Seflish men who give good dads a bad name. Hope you manage to get this sorted. Hopefully the CSA will do their job. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lankybellwipe Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I think dads who sever themselves from their responsibilities (emotional and financial) are not worth a light in all honesty. Seflish men who give good dads a bad name. Hope you manage to get this sorted. Hopefully the CSA will do their job. Is his employer as much a prick as he appears to be? Any astute businessman will recognise that to fuck with government agencies like this will not do your company any good! And if he's fannying them about for a friend who couldn't give a hoot about his own children, then they're as bad as eachother, and I hope they're both given the 'Woolworths' AGM when they get Mondays post! The CSA needs a complete turnover - again, they really are shat, but I pray you get what you're due pet, and they get whats coming to them Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Joephix Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Post the address so sum1 can go torch the place Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
GM Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Bloody CSA. Disgraceful organisation. Its very existence underlines the moral decay in this country that sees young women getting a bloke in a baby trap which will see them clear to a comfy life on benefits and daytime telly. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
M4 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 in a baby trap Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coco Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I used to work at the CSA in Belfast. Shockingly run organisation. They like to make out that they have the power to do this and that, but there is so much red tape it's unbelieveable. If they've put a DEO in place, then his employer (i.e. his mate) now has the legal responsibility to get that money in on time. If he is fucking around on purpose, they should follow up on that after he has shown to be unable to comply. Unfortunately, this is highly unlikely to happen, because he'll have some bullshit about a delay in the post or something, and it'll happen every time. What you need is to get a hold of someone at the CSA who is actually going to fight for you, and won't give the bastard a minutes peace. Unfortunately, those types can be few and far between, but, they are there, so hopefully you'll get someone to fight your corner... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adam Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Post his details on 4chan along with the company info. Someone will do something that will really piss them off. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest toonlass Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 And as predicted when I first made a claim through the CSA last year my ex has phoned this morning and has claimed to have been "laid off". What a fucking surprise. I am still waiting for March's payment too, never mind the one for April. They have said that they are going to phone his boss and check, but seeing that his boss is his mate I wouldn't be surprised if he just continues to work cash in hand off the books. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Nguyen Van Falk Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. Was that necessary? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest icemanblue Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. Was that necessary? Was the thread? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Nguyen Van Falk Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. Was that necessary? Was that? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest elbee909 Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 My 'father' severed all contact with me and my brother when my parents divorced, after a silly argument with my mum over nothing (he was dumping us on his parents rather than taking any time out with us, when he was meant to be spending some time with us). He then went onto not pay single penny in support for us two either. Not seen him since. Cunt; still, at least I probably earn about three times as much as that waste of space. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Northerngimp Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Hmmm maybe you could have approached him with a hand written letter to try and sort something out outside the CSA, if he failed to get back to you then bring them in as a last restort. But like someone pointed out earlier, if he detached himself from his own two kids then he aint worth a fucking light. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incognito Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. God blimey...why post such malicious drivel?? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest toonlass Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. I am just speechless at that tbh. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
themanupstairs Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. Are you for real? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest diddimz Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. How,Why, What the fuck! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Alan Shearer 9 Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2iv_E-Fn9E Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
NE6 Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liam Liam Liam O Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Your Ex > You. For fuck's sake. No need for that at all. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parky Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 My ex husband decided to not have any contact with my daughters over 4 years ago, and stopped paying his maintenance through the CSA. He even moved house and job to avoid payments. However a friend of mine found out where he had moved to and gave me his address, and so I informed the CSA where he was living. I know he has a decent job and wage and just because he has chosen to sever contact with his kids shouldn't absolve him from the financial repsonsibility of them. The CSA contacted him, did the calculations and set an amount he was meant to pay each month (after he avoided payment for nearly 3 years). He didn't bother paying this and the CSA had to get a reductions from earnings order onto his wage, where his employers take the money out of his wages and send them to the CSA. Now I know that his employer is also his mate, and so they waited until the very last moment they could last month before sending the money to the CSA. I should have received the next payment today (only the second payment in over 3 years) and apparantly the employer has until close of business last night to get the money to the CSA, but so far nothing is showing up on the computers at the CSA, and I am fuming! Its hard enough being a single parent, and its hard enough trying to make ends meat, but then my ex husband and his mate who employs him just take the piss. Its about time something was done to stop fathers from fucking around with their kids lives. What my ex doesn't realise while he is being petty, is that its his children that the money is for, not me. I am absolutely fuming, my rent is due on Tuesday, I have bills to pay, shopping to get in and the maintenance is not in the bank. Am seriously thinking of quitting my job and going on benefits as it means that I won't have to pay rent, council tax and rely on his money. Should have stayed together innit. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest toonlass Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Great advice Parky. You ever thought about volunteering for women's aid? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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