Guest lankybellwipe Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Got a small problem that requires some general feedback that may help me decide wether or not to do something. Kat passed away a year and a half ago. for the past couple of months, I've had strong feelings for one of her closest friends, but I have never said anything for fear of losing a good friend. I know this is a tricky situation, but I cannot control who I have feelings for. My question is, of the two options, what do you think she'd do to my cheek if I told her the story? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
catmag Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 "If you never try, you'll never know..." What do YOU think she would do? Do you have an inkling that she likes you too? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incognito Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 I think she'll be understanding mate...you'll never know unless you do something about it,and if you don't,then you'll certainly have regrets...take the bull by the horns mate. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 When it comes to this kind of thing, go with your instinct. Always go with your instinct. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robster Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 I went for Kiss mate but in a general "friend" kind of way. Without knowing this girl obviously, my instinct was to think that she may not want to get involved for fear of feeling like she was going behind her friends back. Its a tough call Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incognito Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Question is...could she reach your cheek? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lankybellwipe Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 "If you never try, you'll never know..." What do YOU think she would do? Do you have an inkling that she likes you too? I really don't know Cath. We get on like a house on fire, she likes me 'as a friend' definately, I'm just too scared to risk losing that friend. Maybe this will help me decide? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
GM Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 My worry would be that if she was a close friend of Kat, she may spurn your advances out of ongoing loyalty to her dear friend, and any rejection wouldnt be because of her not wanting to be with you...buut merely because the idea of it would seem disloyal and mess with her head. ...and that could be messy. That said, as the old addage goes, faint heart never won fair lady... ...mate, I think we all just want to see you happy. God knows you deserve it. Edited for clarity Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lankybellwipe Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 I went for Kiss mate but in a general "friend" kind of way. Without knowing this girl obviously, my instinct was to think that she may not want to get involved for fear of feeling like she was going behind her friends back. Its a tough call That is exactly my fear Rob. Hmmmmmmm Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lankybellwipe Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Question is...could she reach your cheek? I'd bend over! (backwards for her) Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shak Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 I reckon it could be best to come clean and tell her the truth. I'm sure she'll understand that this can't be easy for you, and that's it natural for you to develop feelings for other women after time, particularly ones you know and get along with and can trust. Whether she'll feel the same I don't know, but sounds like it'd be good for you to get it off your chest so to speak. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaizero Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 When it comes to this kind of thing, go with your instinct. Always go with your instinct. This. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incognito Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 It's all in the way you tell her mate....do it in the discreet,nice manner and whichever way she feels,she won't slap you... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
pedro111 Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 I was gonna vote 'smack', but after seeing the results of the poll, Im glad I didnt!!! Sorry Lanky! Go for it mate, like Dr Pepper says, whats the worst that could happen!?! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cajun Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 If I was a lass I would definitely give you a kiss, actually..... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gash Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 If I was a lass I would definitely give you a kiss, actually..... I would in my current genderal state Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jill Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Go for it fella. As has already been said, you never know if you don't try. If she likes you too, then chances are she's having the same worries. If not, it doesn't mean you have to lose her as a friend. And I certainly don't think she'll slap you. Good luck anyway. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
La Parka Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 When it comes to this kind of thing, go with your instinct. Always go with your instinct. Good advice. No point fannying around. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nobody Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Whatever you do, don't do what I would have done. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lankybellwipe Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Whatever you do, don't do what I would have done. Hmmmm, yes. Past post memory kicking in here! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
madras Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 rohypnol is the answer. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lankybellwipe Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 rohypnol is the answer. Rolf who? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest toonlass Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 Do what you feel is right. If you don't talk to her then things then get more complicated. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tooj Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 Quite shocked that Dave hasn't swooped in with a change in thread title yet like. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pilko Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 Quite shocked that Dave hasn't swooped in with a change in thread title yet like. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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